During our lifetime we come to various forks in the road which determine whether we take one path or the other. These different paths can quite often be the difference between a lifetime of hardships or a lifetime of happiness. The real mind-boggler can be deciding which path will lead to the lifetime of happiness; which path is the right path? I'm here to tell you that both paths are right for you.
I've been through some amazingly wild crap so far in my life, and at the time I would've chosen to have avoided the whole lot of it. People, situations beyond my control, my environment and other outside factors all contributed to me choosing to go down the hardship path instead of the happiness path. I thought I was choosing the right path at the time, and turns out it was the right path, you could say that the weather just happened to be extremely bad the day I travelled down these paths.
I choose to disown regret. I'd also like you to choose to discard it from your life as well. Because whatever we have been through, wherever we have come from, and wherever we are now is exactly where we are meant to be. If you took the hardship path then that was the path you were meant to take, and chances are that at the end of that path there's another set of forks which lead onto greater things than the happiness path could've ever led to.
The choice of paths we take is determined by our soul, not by our physical minds or selves. Our souls are constantly reincarnating so that we are able to learn new life lessons. These lessons can involve hardship, happiness and a whole range of other lessons. At some point during the lifetime of your soul you will experience hardship. You will also at some point during your soul's lifetime experience pain, betrayal, victimisation, hurt, true love, peace, joy and everything else in between. These are lessons which the soul needs to learn before it can reach enlightenment and become one with The Universe (a.k.a. God, Allah, The Source, The Light, whatever you'd like to call it!). So in short, our path is pre-destined. We have no choice in the matter as there are a set amount of lessons which your soul needs to learn during your current lifetime.
What does fascinate me the most are those who go through an 'unfair' amount of hardships during their lifetimes. These people are usually souls which are fast-tracking their advancement. And regardless of how carefully you pick which path to take, the results and lessons are usually the same when your soul is in fast-track mode. This is not to say that you can't lessen the blow of these hardships.
Hardships are painful but they can be dealt with quickly, if you choose to do so. It takes great practice in yourself to realise that you've just learnt an important life lesson and to take that experience on-board. This is why I tell people to weather the storm, don't fight it, admit to what you are feeling about it and, most importantly, look for the lesson in the hardship. Once you have recognised the lesson you won't go through it again (unless of course you forget the lesson altogether!). Looking for the positive aspect in a bad situation will do you absolute wonders!
So, go ahead and take the path you think is best. Don't worry or fret about whether it is the right path to take. Be kind to others even if they make life hard because chances are they are on a path with is much harder than yours. That's how karma really works; not through vengeance but through paths.
Love and light to you all