In light of my up-and-coming detox month I thought I'd write about an important component of auric detoxing, which is ditching complaining. We are surrounded by complaints daily. We also complain numerous times a day. Our society has learnt to complain without even realising it. Sure it's a vent of sorts and complaining may get you a free dessert or Big Mac from the drive-through, but at what cost? And how healthy is this habit? (...the complaining, not the freebies at MacDonalds.)
The cost of complaining is bigger than you think, and you may unknowingly be complaining more than you think. Everyday we complain frequently about situations or people, when that energy could be directed elsewhere. Complaining not only effects those that it's directed at, but also yourself. It's become such an involuntary action in society that it is acceptable and sometimes even encouraged.
Complaining takes energy; your energy. It also enlarges the feild of negativity around you. When you're complaining, you're leaving little room for positivity to flow into your life. You're also treating another human with disrespect. Whether they deserve it or not is beside the point. The matter of the complaint is usually frivolous or insignificant in the scheme of things, and forgiveness would be a better way to spend that energy.
If you doubt that you're a complainer then try admitting to yourself that you've never:
- Made an angry and unproductive complaint to a shop assistant/ waiter/ service provider
- Complained about a co-worker to another co-worker
- Gossiped about someone else's beliefs/ way of life
- Stomped up to your kid's school teacher and bagged their teaching style
- Written a letter to the broadcasting standards authority (Argh, who has the time!)
- Complained about something a neighbour, friend or family member has done
- Bitched and moaned at your partner for their lack of initiative or laziness
- Been far to interested, opinionated and involved in the last Elections
- Complained about Kayne West and Kim Kardashian (Admit it!)
Sure, the squeakiest wheel gets oiled first, but that doesn't mean that your complaint needs to be processed and passed on from person to person. Complaining is when emotion is involved, and also most definitely when you are talking to another person negatively about someone else is. Complaining damages your happiness. It also reinforces those thoughts of negativity and makes those thoughts seem real.
So why not try to cut the complaining out of your life for a while. The benefits are huge to yourself and your loved ones. Of course there are occasions when people need to be told about a lack of service on their part, or about a lack of understanding on their part. There is a better way to go about this than complaining in our normal style. Why not address the problem, without emotion and with forgiveness, and then leave it at that. Stop the pattern of complaining from person to person.
Good luck and blessing to you all