Emotional pain can kill someone just as easily as physical pain can. It has been a blessing to see how far along we have come as a society with the awareness and improvements in treating emotional and mental health issues over the last decade.
Much of one's healing can be done through the act of forgiveness. And, I completely agree that it is easier said than done. It's not impossible though, and once you learn how to forgive it becomes a life skill which you can use for your own benefit whenever needed. Forgiveness has long been a core value held by Christian religions, and it's such a powerful thing that I whole-heartedly promote and encourage people to practice the art of forgiveness.
Forgiveness is a practice. It takes time and effort to learn how to forgive people. I'm not only talking about the perpetrators who have victimised you or who have actively destroyed your life but I'm talking about people in general; even the guy who stole that car park that you were waiting for last week. People treat others with disrespect as often as the Sun rises each day. They can be little misdemeanours or large. And I guarantee that you've done something to upset someone else along the line too. It's human nature to take what energy and power we can from other people whether we realise it or not.
So learning the act of forgiveness can change your life forever. It is, in my opinion, the most powerful self-love technique that you'll ever learn. As healing can only come through learning how to forgive.
Healing through forgiveness does nothing to benefit the person who wronged you. Quite the opposite; it does everything to empower you and teaches you how to deal with the more annoying, little wrongs that you'll come across throughout life. There are a multitude of benefits of learning how to forgive and this is what is important when you can't quite make the decision to forgive someone.
The practice of forgiveness can:
* Heal emotional and mental pain
* Help you deal with other annoyances in life
* Take away unnecessary stress in your life
* Take power away from your abuser and transfer that power back to yourself
* Make you happy
* Teach you what is important in life
* Help you move on from any given situation
When someone makes you to feel hurt, angry or insecure this means that they are currently holding power over you. And usually that power that they hold shows how little they value you as a person. Anything that is unforgiven means that you will remain connected to that person for eternity, or until your soul has the courage to forgive.Forgiving someone doesn't mean that they need to remain in your life thereafter. In fact it is often wise to have no more contact with them after the fact. This isn't to say that you haven't forgiven them but that you'll no longer risk being put in harms way again.
Learn to love yourself by forgiving others. This will help you heal any pain. Make the time each day to sit quietly for five minutes and focus on forgiving others. Learn to forgive yourself during this time too if you have caused anyone pain. Take everything into account and then let it all go. This is the art of practicing forgiveness and it is a powerful healer which will enrich your life forever more.
Love and light xoxo